Separation over the Christmas holiday period

According to research , divorce comes in at the second most stressful life event closely followed by the almost identical event of marriage separation: these events only being less stressful or traumatic than the death of a spouse.

So while the festive season should be a time of celebration with those close to us, there are some of us facing the reality that, what was once our reality, may now be gone. Here are some tips to help if you find yourself in that situation, not only during the holiday season, but at any point in your life:

1. DO - talk to someone. Whether it be a family member, close friend or a professional. If you feel more comfortable talking to someone other than a person in your close circle, there are plenty of people who are there to help or just to lend an ear. We recommend the services of:

• Relationships Australia – 1300 364 277

• Family Relationship Advice Line – 1800 050 321

• Lifeline – 13 11 14

2. DON’T – over-indulge. While we don’t want to sound like the fun police, our experience suggests that if you are facing the breakdown of a relationship, very few good decisions come from a place of overindulgence of any form of alcohol or drugs.

3. DO – get legal advice. Even if the separation is amicable, you should still get some advice about your rights in relation to both children and property matters. In some circumstances, an hour long consultation with your family law lawyer may suffice.

4. DON’T – post anything derogatory on Facebook or any other social media medium. More and more of this content is being used in evidence against parties in litigation proceedings. Remember the old adage, “If you don’t have anything nice to say….”

5. DO – know that with the help of friends, family, health professionals and of course with some expert legal advice, you will get through this tough time.

For information regarding legal rights and obligations in relation to separation and divorce, contact us.